How do you react when your day care provider tells you that your nine week old baby has more attitude than any baby they have ever seen?
Tell them it’s impossible. How could this baby possibly cause any trouble?
Right. No. Actually, somewhere, deep inside, I felt somewhat validated. Kai screams like a banshee for nearly all of the hours that we are together and, after six weeks of that while I was on maternity leave, I seriously began to wonder if I was doing something wrong. Although I did not want to hear that she had attitude, [I understood this as: “Your baby screams all day.”] that declaration somehow made me feel as if it was her, not me that was the problem.
Until Miss Sharon’s follow-up line: “You know that you are probably causing it by holding her all the time.”
Excuse me? First of all, she has spent more waking hours at day care in the past three weeks than she has with me. [Not proud of that, but it is true.] Secondly, can you really hold a baby too much? Yes, we do hold her for nearly all of the two hours between when we get home from work and her bedtime, but I definitely don’t think that is too much. In fact, I feel guilty for not holding her more than I do.
After this conversation set in, my initial reaction began to dissolve into a panicked “oh no, I think they hate my baby” feeling. Not good. I don’t know how comfortable I am with leaving her, day in and day out, with someone who obviously finds her to be annoying.
For the record, I don’t really blame the lady for being annoyed. Kai is a super loud, extremely demanding baby. Even I was exhausted after six weeks of solo Kai-care.
- Have plenty of spare milk to bring them if they throw mine away.
- Will not have any trouble making extra time in the morning for milk audits. Promise I’m not struggling to get to work on time as it is.
- Will test my milk temperature before leaving the house and, based on the R-rating of my cooler bag and my typical commute time, do some scratch pad math to decide if I should bother going to work that day.
- Totally understand that it is in the name of food safety. After all, if I won’t protect Kai from potentially harmful milk, who will?